The secrets that we hide have enormous power in our lives. How many addictive or compulsive behaviors have been hidden or covered up? When we took the step to admit the exact nature of our addiction to another person, we were probably amazed at the way the addiction lost power and was exposed. The power of hidden behaviors and secrets can work for us as well as against us.
The psalmist wrote this prayer to God: “I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11). If we “hide Gods Word in our heart by memorizing and meditating on it, we will find new power to keep our hearts and minds clean.
The power of secrets will also work to our advantage in our prayer lives. Jesus taught us that when you pray, go away by yourselves, shut the door and pray to your Father in private, who sees everything, will reward you.” (Matthew 6:6). When we begin to spend time shut away with God in prayer and meditation, we’ll find that power working for us. Life Recovery Bible © 1998, 2017 by Tyndale House Publishing. Notes and Bible helps copyright © 1998, 2017 by Stephen Arterburn, Founder of New Life Ministries and David Stoop, Founder Center for Family Therapy.
Sometimes our secrets are too difficult to share because they bring shame on ourselves or others that we care about. The shame that hold us in a perpetual place of needing relief. Relief from the torment and shame that causes us to lose hope or to believe that we don’t deserve better. Better friends, partner, job, you name it. But it’s a lie. A deception that lowers expectations of ourselves and those that we choose to surround ourselves with.
We get blasted out of our head because of we trick ourselves into believing yet another lie, that we have somehow found reprieve. That temporary relief that started as a band-aid and then one day becomes a noose.
What is it that stops us from reaching out and asking for help? Could it be the risk of being rejected, humiliated or shamed even further? There’s real wisdom in not just blindly trusting. Jesus also shared that we should not throw our pearls before the swine. (Matthew 7:6.) It’s a great visual of taking something valuable and throwing into a literal pig’s pen.
Maybe this is one of the reasons Jesus encouraged his friends and loved ones to pray in private. Maybe this why King David cried out to God in one of his darkest hours, “I’ve hidden your word inside my heart.” The scripture teaches us that there is wisdom in proceeding with caution when sharing the matters of our heart. But it does not say that we should never trust anyone or that we cannot trust God.
I think Bill W. got it right. It begins with first admitting our need for help, followed by seeking God. He is an excellent listener of secrets and a great first step.
About The Author: Mitkam Day writes to inspire others to pursue their own journey in discovering the biblical solutions for sustaining recovery. Mitkam is an entrepreneur who founded a successful multi-county substance abuse agency and recovery program. She has dedicated the last 20 years of her professional career teaching others how to implement the original 12-Steps biblical applications.