How do we even begin to think of living a life without alcohol? The number one killer out of all the substances abused, but it’s legal. It’s constantly advertised and normalized. Getting sober is hard, and staying sober almost seems impossible.
Learning to give something up that is almost an expectation of growing up, an expectation of being an adult, an expectation of being a mom, an expectation of weekend fun, is one of the hardest things to do. Especially if you’re life revolves around it. You’re friends and loved ones drink and have no problem stopping. But not you. You always have to have just one more. It never seems to be enough. Yet, every hungover morning that you wake up, that’s always the last time right? “I’ll do something different next time”. The biggest lie we can ever tell ourselves is that we have any type of control over our addiction.
Drinking has become such a normalized thing that it almost makes people feel bad or as if somethings wrong with them if they don’t drink. When we go to get togethers with the moms of our kids friends, and they can’t wait to pop open that bottle of wine. Anytime there’s something to celebrate- but it’s not a “real” celebration without the alcohol. Weddings, going out on dates, needing to relax, feeling any type of emotion good, bad or in between: those are all reasons we justify drinking.
Can you just imagine how scary it sounds to cut alcohol out of our life? How lonely? How boring?
Here’s some food for thought. All the great times we had drinking, was it really the alcohol or was it the people we were with that made it so memorable? Were our best dates the ones we were too drunk to remember, or was it the one where you remember everything you did, everything that was said and exactly how happy that person made you feel? There comes a point where the alcohol takes more away from us than it ever gave us to begin with.
I just hope this gives a glimpse of insight to people that don’t struggle with addiction. Why getting sober is so hard and why it takes some of us 2, 3 or 100 tries before we get it right. But more than anything, I hope the people that have suffered, or are still struggling to stay sober, know that there is hope. You don’t have to drink to enjoy life. You don’t have to drink because it’s the norm. You don’t have to do this by yourself. You are not alone.